I Felt Heard

A simple thing happened yesterday - I FELT HEARD!

I felt heard not in a huge important "I've got something really big to say" way. I felt heard in a small but rather significant way. Yesterday, as my husband and I strolled along the downtown streets, we talked about everything and nothing. This has not been normal for us for over a year.

It is strange how a woman can feel so invisible when she talks about small things, such as the funny joke a friend told her, and she gets interrupted as he points out the truck driving by. Worse yet, he interrupts her to have a conversation with one of the kids. He never returns to her to pick up where she was interrupted. If he does, so much has transpired in between that she feels her story is too insignificant to even continue...so she doesn't.

This has been the norm for us for many years. Yesterday, however, things were very different. As we passed sights and visited shops, we commented and shared the little things. When I spoke, he listened without interrupting, even though I was not moving mountains. I was just talking about the little nothings. So often I have felt that I am only being heard if I have earth shattering news to report. This is what was different - I was being heard when no one's life depended on it.

I felt so good.

I almost trusted again, but that will take more than just one carefree morning together. After all, it took a lot of little hurts and little jabs to destroy that trust.